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dmcauliffe
Newbie Joined: August/29/2014 Location: Hawaii Status: Offline Points: 20 |
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Posted: September/19/2014 at 6:14am |
Greetings Brethren. I was just recently initiated into the Craft last month, and though I am very happy with my decision, some family members aren't quite as thrilled. Ultimately it has no bearing on my admiration of the Craft, though I am not quite sure how to deal with the negative reactions. My mother in particular has said some things to me that I have had to refute, and often I find myself getting quite angry (though I try to remember the CG) with her when she makes her accusations. At first I was glad to tell her what I could; after a while, I found my attempts futile as she remained steadfast in her ignorance and unsatisfied by my responses. It is frustrating because she is a spiritual person and generally very liberal and open-minded. I'm shocked that she out of all the people I know would be the one to call Masonry a cult, a weird religion, etc. Anyway, my question is this: have you had negative reactions to your joining from close family members, and, if so, how did you deal with it? Furthermore, have their perceptions of the Craft changed or not?
Edited by dmcauliffe - September/19/2014 at 6:16am |
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jdwalker519
Quarryman Joined: October/12/2013 Location: Washington, DC Status: Offline Points: 226 |
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Wish I could help you, brother... the family I have that I still talk to don't really care...and any that would object I rarely talk to, and couldn't care less what they think anyway.
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J.D. Walker
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Warrior1256
Groupie Joined: September/04/2014 Location: Louisville, Ky Status: Offline Points: 97 |
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Pretty much the same here. If someone I cared about had a negative reaction to my belonging to the Craft I would explain things as well as I could. If they still had a negative view we would just have to agree to disagree. |
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St. Matthews Lodge 906
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edwmax
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Since your mother raised you, ask her why would she think you would join such a group if what she believed and was told about Freemasonry was true. ... You are a grown man and she should trust your judgment.
... Anyway, you will have to tell her the subject of Freemasonry is 'off-limit' between the 2 of you. |
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Caution1010
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When I joined, my mum had her issues with it (growing up between Catholics and evangelicals). I had to remind her of the guy she raised, plus one of her good friends who had recently passed away was a mason. She calmed down and never brought it up again.
My dad just recently found out about my membership. He too has no issues with it (which I find a relief especially since he's a catholic and all that) My siblings know about my membership and frankly don't care.
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WBScott
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When we investigate a petitioner, we usually do so in his home with his wife (if he has one) and any other significant people in his life present specifically so they can ask questions of us. If joining a lodge will in any way disrupt the peace and harmony of a family, then perhaps becoming a Mason is not right for that person.
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ouija21
Newbie Joined: October/21/2014 Location: Alaska Status: Offline Points: 13 |
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In my humble opinion I agree with the other brethren. Yet when I was younger growing up I heard nasty thing's about The Craft. Mother's are some times the sweetest yet can be the most bitter. It usually comes In the form when you introduce a significant other. They say "nay you can do better" or "oh that's the one", yet in the end it's your choice. You can chose to demit if you feel it may cause tribulations but if it was a significant other and you we're happy would you divorce? Simply put many of our choices as human beings our challenged everyday, but you were first made a mason in your heart and have made your choice and your faith was well founded. So if you are happy then go forward or do what you feel is correct. I by no means am saying masonry is liken to marriage perhaps it's a poor example, but in the end your a man and you live your own life. Some have not cared, & some make fun of me but I am faithful and know I made the right choice. There will never be another me, and there will never be another you. Good luck brother and Godspeed.
Edited by ouija21 - October/25/2014 at 12:37am |
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